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7 Things You Need to Know about Dating Dutch Women

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7 Things You Need to Know about Dating Dutch Women

Think of Homer’s odyssey (not Simpson), Dr Richard Kimble’s quest to find the one armed man in the Fugitive, or attempting to join the SAS. These are all childs play when compared with finding and keeping a Dutch woman.

The Netherlands is full of expat men, whose confidence has been shattered due to their experiences in attempting to date Dutch women. Previously I provided some holiday season advice on dating Dutch women which many of my fellow expats appear to have ignored at their peril.

The Shallow Man has even started a counselling group called ‘Dutch women survivors’ for expat men who have been shot down in flames when attempting to approach Dutch women. My group also helps men who were in failed relationships with the most unapproachable women in Europe.

If your heart is set on successfully dating Dutch women, I’ll tell you seven things you need to know about dating these dominant (but hotter than freshly fried frites) Amazonian warrior women.

Here are 7 critical things you need to know about dating Dutch women.

About dating Dutch women a picture of Gal Gadot as Wonder Woman
Anouk didn’t take kindly to having lions flirting with her

 

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Now this post might upset some, and if as a result I’m grabbed by a group of angry Dutch women, and am taken to my own personal hell, the drie dwaze dagen sale at de Bijenkorf, and am forced to carry their bags while they scream at me “IK ZEG SKINNY JEANS, DIT IS EEN BOOTCUT JIJ IDIOOT.” I’ll say to my enemies,  “no need to be so aggressive, I was just telling it like it is.”

The things I do for my readers!

1. Opening doors will not lead to dating Dutch women

As Grandmaster Flash once said in the song White Lines, ‘don’t, don’t, don’t do it!’ In most of the civilised world, holding doors open for women is considered to be chivalrous and the behavior of a gentlemen. Women usually appreciate such gestures. Not in the Netherlands! Even after 10 years in the land of deep fried cuisine, I still can’t break the habit of opening doors for women. If I’m about to walk into a cafe, and there’s a woman walking in at the same time, I’ll pause and hold the door open for her. What do I get in return? A look that says “this guy has just escaped from mental health institution.” Holding doors open for Dutch women will earn you scorn and contempt.

The Shallow Man’s advice is that when you see a woman walking behind you, just let the door shut in her face. She’ll love it! She might even and come over and say “wow you’re so well integrated with Dutch society, here’s my phone number.”

2. Be confident

In nature a pack of wolves will pick off the weakest caribou then strike for the kill. A similar pattern can be seen in the Dutch dating game. A key thing to know about Dutch women is that they like to hunt in packs. If several men are together, Dutch women, through a series of shouting, rudeness, and intimidation, will eventually home in on the man most likely to carry their shopping bags for them at Albert Heijn in the near future. They’ll persist until their chosen victim has turned into a lump of quivering jelly. What you need to know is that as an expat, if you stand your ground in face of the ugg booted onslaught, that Dutch women will forgive you and may even find your self-confidence attractive. From Dutch men they expect total acquiescence, and the ability to follow orders. As an expat, you’ll get away with standing up to them, and using a little humor always goes down well. (So I’m told).

 

3. Dutch women are never wrong about anything!

If you’re from London, and a Dutch woman tells you the name of what she says is THE coolest club in the city, don’t politely point out to her that the place she’s referring to has been closed down for several years, and is in fact used as an old peoples home. A key thing I’ve learned about Dutch women is that they’re always right. So don’t argue, smile and nod politely and say “ja, je hebt gelijk.”

4. Flash the Spaarzegels

If you want to impress Dutch women, forget showing your car keys, or talking about how fine the wool is that your suits are made from. Instead, whip it out! (Not what you’re thinking). Whip out the Albert Heijn spaarzegels (saving stamps). Dutch women, are used to dating Dutch men, whose deep and passionate love of money is legendary. I was watching the Dutch news earlier this week where an entire town will be without gas for the next few days. You could see that some of the affected residents were rubbing their hands with glee at the thought of how much money they’ll save on energy bills as a result.

Spaarzegels can be bought for 0.10 cents a time with each purchase at Albert Heijn. When you have a full book of stamps (this will cost 49 euros) Albert Heijn will give you 52 euros cash. This is a higher interest rate than you’ll receive from any bank. Impress your Dutch lady by waving your almost full book of stamps in her face, she’ll be like krentenbollen in your hands, and hopefully not as greasy.

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Dagobert Duck, a cash saving sex symbol for Dutch women

 

5. Never ask a Dutch woman to cook

If you value your life, never, ever,  get the idea in your head to ask your Dutch partner to cook for you. Don’t even ask for a sandwich. A lot of Dutch women, just like their British counterparts believe that critical processes in preparing a meal involve a microwave, or a dangerous driving scooter rider to execute the delivery of the dish. If you actually have the temerity to request a home cooked meal (even if you’ve cooked for her before) don’t be surprised if she turns into an angry shouting demon as a result. “Hoe haal je het in je hoofd??????”

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Emancipated Dutch women refuse to cook dinner for their men

 

6. Never join in with her bitching about her friends

Another thing to know about dating Dutch women is that Dutch antelopes can be somewhat confusing. If you’re dating one, you’ll get used to agreeing with her the whole time just to keep the peace. If, as is highly likely you’re not paying attention, and she says “Who does Anouk think she is wearing such tight jeans, I think they were too tight.” Don’t whatever you do, agree with her, or make a comment such as, “yes her butt looks as if it’s attempting to stage a prison break from her jeans.” This will only earn you comments such as “What!!! have you been checking out her butt? Is that what you like then? WHY DON’T YOU GO OUT WITH HER???”

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Resistance is futile

7. Know your place

This is how you’ll see yourself in the relationship with your Dutch partner.

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This is how she’ll see you.

Dating Dutch women requires men to know their place
Know your place!

 

So to summarise, what you really need to know about dating Dutch women is the following:

  • Be bloody rude they’re used to it, and will not respect you if you’re polite
  • Agree with everything they say
  • Be as tight with money as the untouched genitals of a virgin flea
  • Order takeaways or do the cooking (all the time)
  • Know your place
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No your place when dating a Dutch woman

No pizza delivery riders were hurt during the writing of this post.

 

About Simon Woolcot

Infamous blogger, annoyance and self confessed Shallow Man . Simon is a British expat who has lived in Amsterdam for over 11 years, and due to Brexit may soon be applying for asylum. As well as writing this blog, Simon also has a YouTube channel of the same name, writes and directs videos, and hosts seminars about life in the Netherlands

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  • Dutch women, I know a lot of you read my blog. Any additional tips?

    • Isabel

      Maybe add the line
      Don’t be rude all the time
      ‘cuz nobody likes to date someone who is a complete asshole 24/7:3

      • Fat Lip

        stuff your pants and film them, they are the worse when it comes to choosing between a man or his thing

        • Isabel :3

          Considering I’m not a male stuffing my pants would be kinda odd xp

      • medidude

        Agree with Isabel ; I think a man should be rude a third of the time with her girl, good enough to keep a woman on her toe… Women love unpredictability. So 1/3 pure rudeness; 1/3 neutral and okay; 1/3 truely amazing behavior…. Generally women will appreciate those variations and It will show different facades of your personnality.

  • This was just horrendous. I am not sure if you have a Dutch girlfriend, but if you do and you used your own tips in getting her to like you… I just have no words for it.

    • I stand by my tips, they work well I’m told

    • Fat Lip

      i have plenty of hot dutch girlfriends, they do not demand anything from me but the bazooka, in fact together (3)

  • Esther de Bruijn

    This cow of yours, called Predjudice, I think you milked her out. And the milk is sour as well.

    • That’s pretty profound and poetic.

    • Fat Lip

      called

      Law of Jante

  • Daniel

    You definitely know what you´re talking about…. after 2 years I’m totally convinced that the role model for dutch women is either Chuck Norris or Vinnie Jones. One must see it to believe it…

  • Sam

    Know your place? Lmao. Fuck you.

    Just be a man. Women respect MEN. Not whipped little pussy boys.

    • Ces

      hahahahahaha!

  • medidude

    HAHA as a belgian man, this is not my experience… Most of dutch women I’ve dated were easy to lay as fuck and were more beautiful than your average woman( also taller and blonder, which I loved). I always had it too easy with them lol. What I love about them is that they are generally smart, openminded, as introverted as I am and I like their style… Also they generally like me, which helps. One thing I agree is that they love overconfidence in their men… the badder you treat them, the better they give themsleves to you( but that isgeneral with women i Guess!). Perhaps, one thing I like is that a sexual move is easily done and they like it lol, touch boob agresively, grab pussy, ask for BJ in public space,anything… they are ready to do crazy shit for us, basically be our personal little whores and I like that lol. To a point where it scares us and you wonder what the girl expects in return lol; anyway drifting….

  • JamesBond

    I heard Dutch women generally think belgian men are stupid and talk funny. most of them are short and if by some miracle you ‘medidude’ had sex with a Dutch woman its not you f***ing them, its her f**ing you. As in your the designated F**k buddy or piece of used meat. Get over it. Dutch women are sweet, kind and nothing as described on this webpage. Was shocking to read it, its the universal law to be polite and respectful of women, any deviation from the norm means you have to compensate for something. i.e your rude or aggressive because your short, or ugly or don’t have a job or many reasons. Normally a nice respectful man with a good job, not ugly and tall wont have a problem finding a decent Dutch woman. The only key issue about Dutch women is they prefer taller western men. So if your a 5ft Chinese/indian/asian man, sorry to say but you have more chance winning the lottery 10 times in a row, its just not gonna happen.

    • N.T

      I’m 5’7′ .. and you just made me cry 🙁 haha

  • Johnny D

    Great article! As a native I can tell you’re spot on. The comments of Mr Bond also partially true. Meaning the racial issue, but I guess you couldn’t mention it without the risk of being hunted down and ‘made example of’ . 😀 Poor expats . . .

  • Al Mighty

    Coming from Southern Europe, I was a bit shocked by the behavior of some Dutch women. However, after dating a few of them and getting into 2 long term relationships with Dutch women, I have to say they are pretty amazing. Very sexual, educated, open minded and feminine. Yes, not fake feminine like wearing a ton of make-up, but naturally feminine.

    Unfortunately, I moved to London where British women are just horrendous. I think this blog is written by some effeminate British guy who thinks setting boundaries and standing up for oneself can only be done in a rude manner and confuses confidence in European women with the shrill mannishness of British women.

    Pay no attention to this post. Continental Europeans have far more in common than the AngloSaxons. And yes, if you’re from the Anglosphere you probably won’t do too well with European women, Eastern European women, or women in general. There’s a reason Anglo men drink so much on weekends. They know they won’t be getting laid anyway.