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Dating the Dutch is more complex than the Bolshoi ballet. Learn all about how to date the Dutch and their dating habits by reading posts in this section

Dating an Expat Woman the Seven Deadly Mistakes

How not to date an expat

Dating an expat woman seven deadly mistakes The Shallow Man recently received the following message from a reader. “Shallow Man, I’ve noticed that you often provide advice to expats about dating the Dutch, but what about the other way round? I’m Dutch and used to agree with the slogan often worn …

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Five Differences Between British and Dutch Men

On an unusually sunny day in the workers paradise that is commonly known as the Netherlands, I’d just finished a run when I bumped into a Dutch friend of mine. I was wearing a sleeveless t-shirt. “It’s great that in the Netherlands we also have the right to bare arms, just like the …

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Differences between Dutch and American Men

American and Dutch Men, some Differences The Shallow Man recently watched an episode of Masterchef USA. When some of the contestants were told that they were going further in the show, they shouted. “YESSSSS, WOOHOOOO, USA, USA.” Contrast this with the contestants of the Dutch version of this programme, who usually respond …

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An Expat Lady Experiencing More Dating in Amsterdam

Dating in Amsterdam and the Expat Lady Dating in Amsterdam is never easy for expats. It’s time to revisit our heroine, the expat lady. As you may recall, we first encountered her when she’d just moved to Amsterdam and was getting used to Dutch directness.  She’d recently turned forty years old, and is …

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7 Things You Need to Know about Dating Dutch Women

7 Things You Need to Know about Dating Dutch Women Think of Homer’s Odyssey (not Simpson), Dr Richard Kimble’s quest to find the one armed man in the Fugitive, or attempting to join the SAS. These are all child’s play when compared with finding and keeping a Dutch woman. The Netherlands is …

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How to Attract Dutch Men

How to attract Dutch men, don't wear high heels

How to Attract Dutch Men I’d like to paint a picture for you. Just imagine for a moment that you put aside all of your hipster, right-on, PC, middle class principles, and decided to go out hunting an animal, let’s say for example a Lion. Well you wouldn’t just turn …

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The Expat Lady Strikes Back

The Expat lady strikes back In the first part of this story, we met the expat lady and Koen, a charming man who believes in telling it like it is. In short, he’s direct and bloody rude at the same time. Here’s part two of our tale. Sexting Dutch style …

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Dutch directness and the expat lady

Dutch directness takes Dutch courage

The Shallow Man is more politically correct than the Groenlinks party, therefore I was upset to receive the following message from a reader. “Shallow Man, while I’ve enjoyed your series of posts about the expat, why have you only focused on the experiences of an expat man? What about all …

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The Expat the Dutch Woman and the Wardrobe

Expat with a Dutch woman means pussy whipped

In our continuing series about the adventures of a man known only as the expat, time has moved on somewhat. He has become better at socialising with Dutch colleagues and has been doing so well on the Amsterdam dating scene that he’s now on the verge of having a serious relationship with a …

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